This is another therapy session where we talk about your childhood, your adolescence, and past relationships. I am not going to tell you that you have to go backwards to move forward.
My approach is different with decolonized therapy: We focus on moving forward, honoring your values, and being intentional about how you spend your time, energy, and money from now on.
This isn’t traditional therapy. This is decolonized therapy, so we get straight to the point with short-term problem-solving techniques that are culturally appropriate. We combine those techniques with deeper, long-term therapeutic tools. It’s about helping the adult you have become—not just the child you were.
Why Do You Feel This Way? (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)
High achievers like you have been conditioned to believe that you must do 10 times as much to get a fraction of what you deserve because of white supremacy, capitalism, and the patriarchy. But what if that was poor advice?
What if success is about identifying the people/places/things that drain your energy and deciding to engage with less of those people/places/things? Without giving up all that you worked so hard for.
This probably sounds unrealistic, but it is a way forward. I meet with folks who ask, “How can I be happy again?” The answer lies in remembering your values and making decisions and choices based on your own value system.
You are used to pushing and doing all.of.the.time, but now you are out of gas, and every task feels like one more thing on an already endless To Do List. You are emotionally exhausted.
You keep asking yourself, ‘What is wrong with me?’ But the real question is, ‘What would actually help me experience more joy?’
Let’s figure this out together.
Imagine Waking Up Excited About Your Day
What if I were to tell you that experiencing joy and having work life balance are not fantasies—they’re possible! Picture this:
Instead of dreading the alarm in the morning, you wake up feeling refreshed and ready, looking forward to your day.
You start saying ‘yes’ to the people/places/things that are aligned with your values and ‘no’ to the people/places/things that drain you, without feeling guilty about it.
You confidently communicate boundaries at work and in your personal life, without apologizing or defending yourself.
You remind yourself that you are in control of how you spend your time, energy, and money.
It might sound unreal right now, but I’ve seen folks make more space in their lives for what brings them joy. You can have a happier life.
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